Thursday, April 3, 2008

Food For Thought

Which is worse:
Being talked about behind your back in your absence, or being talked about deliberately within your hearing?

I accept that being talked about behind your back, despite being tagged as adolescent behavior, is still rampant in the adult world. It’s going to happen to me – it already happens to me; whatever bitches, I do it too.
Discretion on the part of the gossipers at least allows the subject to maintain a slight shred of dignity, right? But being talked about within your hearing – they know you hear them, and don’t care if you know what they say about you – is pretty demeaning and humiliating, but at least you know the specifics of what’s being said, and whether it’s true or total bullshit.

So would you rather know or not know?
I, personally, would rather be kept in the dark – the things that other people may say about me, though hurtful, I’m sure are no worse than the things I tell myself. Not to mention that there are certain truths I accept about myself anyway – calling me a bitch behind my back; not very original, and also no big secret, so if the intent was to inflict pain, You Lose. Also, I know I’m kind of chubby – Next, please.

The question is more of a rhetorical one, and something I’ve been mulling over myself for the past few days, but feel free to add your 2 cents if you like.


Kat said...

Oh- I'm torn... On one hand, I would rather be talked about behind my back instead of within hearing, because it IS humiliating when you can hear the comment, knowing Bitch #1 and Bitch #2 just don't give a fuck... However, (and I would totally do this) being talking about within hearing's reach means you can walk straight up to Bitch #1 and Bitch #2 and give them the biggest piece of your mind. I've actually done this, and the looks on their faces and apologies that came tumbling from their lips was incredible. Hmmmm....

I am Trish Marie said...

Behind my back. Definitely. Because, let's face it, it is always going to happen. Human nature. There will always be people who talk about you behind your back, and I have learned to not care too much about that.

But? If I actually overheard it, I am not sure I could let it go.

Allie Bear said...

I don't care one way or the other, if you are my true friend then I want to know to my face what you think, brutally honest is fine with me. If you are Joe Schmoe on the street then I don't care and you can talk behind my back, to my face, under my foot, whatever!