Which is worse:
Being talked about behind your back in your absence, or being talked about deliberately within your hearing?
I accept that being talked about behind your back, despite being tagged as adolescent behavior, is still rampant in the adult world. It’s going to happen to me – it already happens to me; whatever bitches, I do it too.
Discretion on the part of the gossipers at least allows the subject to maintain a slight shred of dignity, right? But being talked about within your hearing – they know you hear them, and don’t care if you know what they say about you – is pretty demeaning and humiliating, but at least you know the specifics of what’s being said, and whether it’s true or total bullshit.
So would you rather know or not know?
I, personally, would rather be kept in the dark – the things that other people may say about me, though hurtful, I’m sure are no worse than the things I tell myself. Not to mention that there are certain truths I accept about myself anyway – calling me a bitch behind my back; not very original, and also no big secret, so if the intent was to inflict pain, You Lose. Also, I know I’m kind of chubby – Next, please.
The question is more of a rhetorical one, and something I’ve been mulling over myself for the past few days, but feel free to add your 2 cents if you like.